Your Teen's Sex Life

Posted by GPWHC on 31 October 2016
Tags: Teen Sex

Many years ago, when you held your tiny baby girl for the first time, the last thing you were thinking about was that one day that sweet little bundle of sleeplessness would grow up and have sex.  You may have envisioned her first steps, first day of school, her wedding day, and maybe even her having babies of her own, but probably never thought past that to the mechanics of that.  Every parent chooses what age is appropriate to have “the talk” about the birds and bees, but by the time your child is a pre-teen or teenager, she should at least have a basic or moderate understanding of her body, what will happen as she enters puberty and what sexual intercourse is.  Statistics show a recent drop in the proportion of teens having sex before the age of 15, but by the age of 19, 44% of females and 49% of males have had intercourse.  79% of females aged 15-19 used contraceptive the first time they had sex, compared to 49% in 1982, and 68% of females reported that a condom was the contraceptive of choice in that situation.  While these statistics are positive, it still proves that it is critically important to have open and honest talks with your teens, especially in our oversexualized culture. 

We know that talking to your teen about sex can be awkward, here are a few tips to make it a little easier on both of you. 

·         Carpe Diem- If a news report, TV program, or random conversion can help open up the topic, take the opportunity and have the discussion.  See what your teen knows, and depending on how open your relationship is, ask if your teen has any questions or situations they need advice with.

·         Honesty is the best policy- be honest, if you feel super uncomfortable with the conversation, it’s ok to admit that to your teen, it might help her feel more comfortable knowing that you both feel weird in that moment. 

·         Be Open- A clinical understanding, such as the names and functions of various body parts is important, but it’s also vitally important to discuss the emotions, attitudes and values that go along with sexual intercourse.  Lecturing and scare tactics are not typically successful.

·         Keep the conversation going- Keep an open invitation with your teen to discuss any questions or concerns, and thank her when she does come to you. 


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